The Art of Letting Go
This gift of life that we have is wonderful. There are many of us who, at times, have had a zest for life one moment and at other times wonder how we can juggle all we have going on at the same time. You may feel drained, mentally as well as physically. Having a job, taking care of kids and ourselves, taking care of home chores, errands and many other things we have going on in our daily lives can be challenging. We have our relationships with others as well to consider.
When it seems that life is giving more than you can handle, it is good to take a good look at other perspectives that may be very helpful to you. What may appear to be a problem or challenge in your life may turn out to be a blessing after all. The GOOD news is, you may stay sane and happy despite what may appear to be a stumbling block or an obstacle.
1. Start by taking a look around your home. Is there a lot of clutter? Are there items you have been collecting that serve no purpose to you today? Are you relaxed in your space?
Your home should be your safe haven – a relaxing, warm, welcoming environment. Do it in little bites, go room by room and set a timer so that during that time, you are totally focused on removing items and separating into different categories:
The more you can let go of and create a warm, relaxing, welcoming space, the better you will start to feel.
2. Take a look at your relationships. Are you in contact with people that are toxic? Are there people that are constantly negative or drain you?
Consider your time spent with these people and how you can create boundaries. Keep in contact with positive people that love and support you and respect your time and have your best interests at heart. You want to be in relationships with people that serve and support you, people that lift you up.
Focus on the positive people in your life.
3. Are you in love with what you do for a living?
If you wake up every morning dreading another day at the office or workplace, consider revising it. Think why you are here now and why would you rather be? What profession excites you? What sets fire to your soul when you picture your dream job? If it requires you to go back to school or you need to get your foot in the door and take a lesser role related to that profession, check into it. There may even be a different position within the company that may interest you. There are free career assessments you can take online that may spark something in you. Here is a great article that highlights ten free awesome career self-assessment tools on the internet.
4. Being a parent can be bittersweet. We enjoy our time with our kids but, like us, kids can have busy schedules and depend on us to help them get to where they need to be. Don’t always feel that you have to be the one to take them to their sporting events, birthday parties, volunteer activities. If you are married, switch off with your spouse to give yourself a needed break every once in awhile. If you are a single parent, elicit help from one of the other parents of your child’s friends that may also be involved in the same activity or going to the same event. We all could use a break to rest and relax and very much deserve it.
Do not hesitate to ask for help.
5. Are you concerned about your weight or your appearance?
The number on the scale does not define who you are. If you want to feel better about yourself, you need to realize the scale can not determine your self esteem, it only indicates the physical state. Focus on what you can to do to get healthier. Start with following simple truths everyone knows of: eat less sugar, cut out soda or alcoholic beverages, drink more water, consume more fresh produce. Perhaps you will even consider working with a health coach who would keep you accountable and who would guide you through this quite daunting process. Think what can you change and let go of?
Take it one step at a time.
The more you change your habits and replace with a healthier alternatives, the better you will feel.
6. How are your feelings and emotions?
Our mind never stops. We think constantly on two levels: conscious and subconscious. Our thoughts impact our emotions which later show in our mood. There are many feelings and emotions we cumulate over period of time. Anger, self-doubt, worry, fear, just to name a few. Let’s take fear for example. Think of Fear as an acronym – False Evidence Appearing Real. Learn how to face it and take it head on. There are many books you can read for self-development. Some great books you may want to consider reading are Louise Hay’s “You Can Heal Your Life” and Norman Vincent Peale’s “The Power of Positive Thinking”.
This whole transformation process can be very beautiful and empowering and can be a very joyful time in your life as well. Recognizing what areas in your life you would like to improve upon is a huge first step. It is so good to know that there is support out there waiting to assist you. You may want to consider seeking a one-on-one consultation with a health coach.
You can do it!